Growing up, my brother and I were so close that sometimes our parents worried we wouldn’t have friends of our own. Of course that wasn’t how it turned out, but that’s how well we got along. We had friends who were a brother and sister pair, the exact same age as us. They fought like cats and dogs, but they still shared the special sibling relationship.

After having Porter around for almost 18 months I have considered not having more children. I can totally understand why parents chose to have 1 child and then stick. Our friends had one child and then when she turned 4 they had their second. I believe the quote went something to the effect of, “once you have two you might as well have more, because any more than one is craziness.” This probably isn’t true for some families, but without having more kids I’ll never know.

It has always been part of our plan to have more than one child. I have my brother and Luke has his two sisters. We both believe that siblings are important because we know from experience that there is absolutely no relationship like the one you have with your sibling. In life, there are things that happen which you can’t share with anyone, except your sibling. Not your parents, cousins or friends. More often then not I find it’s the implicit knowledge about familial and life situations that only my brother really truly understands, that has brought me comfort, peace of mind, happiness and sanity. That is why I picked it for #30.

1. Travel to 6 of the 7 continents. Let’s be honest, Antarctica is a long shot. So far I’ve been to North America (Canada, Mexico, Costa Rica) and Europe (France).
2. Spend time practicing yoga at an ashram in India, with my brother.
3. Join a choral group and sing with them regularly.
4. Tour all 50 states in an RV.
5. Visit Monet’s Gardens at Giverny.
6. Take ballroom dancing classes so I can ballroom dance for fun.
7. Travel to a far away destination by boat.
8. To be exceedingly generous to my family and friends.
9. Write a book.
10. Complete all three courses designed by BKS Iyengar in his book Light On Yoga, over the prescribed 300 weeks (5.7 years). 
11. Go hang gliding.
12. Catch a baby being born.
13. Champion a cause – out of hospital midwife assisted birth.
14. Have a garden worthy of a Sunset Magazine photo shoot.
15. Fit comfortably into a coach class airplane seat.
16. Throw a huge party and invite all of our friends and family. Dancing included.
17. Go on an epic solo adventure. 
18. See Alaska by train.
19. Blow glass.
20. Visit Lapland, Finland to celebrate the Solstice with the Midnight Sun.
21. See the Aurora Borealis.
22. Be debt free. With the exception of a house mortgage.
23. Visit The Farm and hear Ina May Gaskin speak. Better yet, meet her in person.
24. Treat common colds/illnesses/ailments holistically, before resorting to pharmaceutical drugs.
25. Live next to a body of water (ocean, lake, pond, river, whatever).
26. Visit, meet and learn from the Amish.
27. Be in supreme physical shape.
28. Go to bed when I want and wake when I want. Everyday.
29. Take a trip using Sunset Magazine itinerary. Eat at their recommended food stops, stay at their recommended accommodations, and do their recommended activities.
30. Give Porter a sibling. Conversations will start in 2014.